Shems Heartwell
Life and Relationship Guide
One of the most important things we can do in all of our quests of personal development is to learn how to show up more fully in life. But doing this is often easier said than done. That’s why I took some time to speak with a very special guest, Shems Heartwell, for the inaugural podcast of this series.
According to Shems, we have a variety of tools at our disposal, as both men and women, that can help catalyze our lives to a whole new level, but most of us simply aren’t utilizing them.
We all want to learn to become better communicators and increase our abilities to connect with others, but unfortunately many of us have not had good modeling on how to keep our hearts open during times of tension and trauma. We often look to TV, sitcoms, and movies for education and guidance on how to excel in our relationships, only to feel short-changed when dealing with difficult situations throughout our own lives.
Men, especially, often lack some of the skills in maintaining openness, vulnerability, and authenticity that come more naturally to women, and yet men can learn these skills whilst still remaining connected to their power. He said,
“Whether we’re a man or a woman, I’m a huge believer that’s there’s a potential for us to show up more fully in all of our relationships. And women tend to do that a little easier than men, so there’s a bigger need for men to have healthy environments to learn more skills in their lives.”
Show Highlights
How to show up more fully in life
How we can work better together in relationships
Why there’s a need “healthy masculinity”
How men can learn to be more open, vulnerable, and authentic, whilst staying connected to their power
How to incorporate new embodiment skills, simple vitality practices, and relationship skills
Why most of us are overdeveloped mentally, and underdeveloped in whole being wisdom
How to dissolve fear
How to move expressions through us that we held back
How to calm our nervous system when we’re with others
How shadow work helps resolve repeated challenges, failures, and hardships
How to practice qigong
Resources and People Mentioned in Podcast
The Men’s Passage: An 8-Week Powerhouse Program for Men
Gay and Kitty Hendrix and The Hendrix Institute
Ken Wilber and The Integral Institute
Relevant Books
