Holding the Space
This week, I served as the sober presence on site for a medicine retreat held here. The role was simple but important: remain available, attentive, and clear throughout the experience. It felt less like overseeing an event and more like holding a container steady while others moved within it.
In the days leading up to the retreat, much of my time was spent preparing the land. I worked closely with the grounds team to make sure the space itself would not introduce unnecessary risk. The intention was quiet and practical: remove hazards so attention could move inward without interruption.
We trimmed sharp points from agave plants along common paths and cleared where footing might be uncertain. We replaced burnt out bulbs outside the cabins and yoga room. We reviewed and reinforced heater protocols to prevent fire.
During the retreat, I kept my phone on ring at all times, including through the night, in case of emergency. Participants were up late, moving through their own processes, while I remained on standby. I rose early the next morning, returning to my routine before the day fully began, carrying the continuity of attention forward.
This kind of presence is a different form of meditation. It asks for clarity without withdrawal, alertness without interference. Rather than entering an altered state, I stayed grounded so others could feel safe doing so.
Much of the work involved noticing rather than acting. Observing the environment. Listening for changes. Tracking energy and movement without inserting myself into it. The absence of intervention became its own form of support.
Being around people as deep material surfaces requires steadiness. Sometimes what is needed is not guidance or reassurance, but the felt sense that someone clear and capable is nearby. Safety often comes from presence alone, even when no action is required.
By the end of the weekend, as the sun dropped into the valley, I felt both tired and grateful. Hosting in this way carries responsibility, but also meaning. Afterward, I took time to rest and receive care myself, letting the week settle back into my body, and reminding myself that holding space also requires being held.
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